Posted on Tuesday, September 27th, 2022 at 12:15 am
The big moment is finally here! You have waited nine months (by the way, it’s actually 10 months) for this big event! Your baby is about to enter the world. You have prepared diligently and meticulously for this exact moment. And, then it happens. The baby is here!
You’re ready to slay this thing called motherhood. Once your home, you start cramping. “Wait. Is that normal?” you think. Your significant other asks you if you want ketchup for your fries and you burst into tears. Is this normal?
“Is this normal?” is probably one of the most frequently asked questions by both new moms and seasoned moms alike. Women spend countless hours preparing to bring home the baby, but what about preparing for YOU? It is just as important to prepare for YOUR arrival home. In this 3-part series, we are going to focus on Postpartum Care for mom. That’s right! This is your ultimate guide to Bringing YOU Home. In today’s discussion, we are going to talk about what’s normal. But first, let’s talk about what the postpartum period is.
What is the Postpartum Period?
The postpartum period is defined as the time from delivery of the infant to the first six to eight weeks afterwards. Just as your body experienced all these miraculous changes during your pregnancy, your body will continue to go through changes after delivery in order to get back to its normal state; or more likely its “new” normal state. Remember, your body is recovering from 10 months of growing and nurturing another human being; not to mention the stress of that Iron Man triathlon you just completed, otherwise known as delivering a baby. So, this is an important time that you should be ready for.
So, what is normal?
This topic here could take up one of those ginormous 1000-page college textbooks you use to have. But let’s try to briefly summarize this.
- Cramping – Your uterus is a muscle. When the baby is full term, your uterus is about the size of a watermelon. After the baby is delivered, your uterus shrinks by approximately 50%. Even after its initial downsizing, it still has a long way to go before it is back to its normal size – around the size of a pear. Part of that shrinking process involves cramping. This can be normal for the first couple of weeks.
Typically, acetaminophen (Tylenol) and/or ibuprofen (Motrin), which are both available over-the -counter, can help. Be sure to check your discharge instructions from the hospital to see what your doctor recommends. A heating pad can also be soothing.
What to consider having at home: Acetaminophen, ibuprofen, a heating pad.
- Bleeding – The blood and discharge expelled from the uterus after delivery is called lochia. In the first 24 hours after delivery, the lochia may be heavier than a period. After that, the bleeding will gradually decrease to a flow similar to a period, then to spotting, and finally it will stop. This process can take anywhere from two to six weeks. Be sure to have both pads and panty liners at home to use. Avoid using tampons during this time.
What to have at home: Maxi pads and panty liners
- Emotional Changes – A wide range of emotions can occur after having a baby. Of course, there can be plenty of bliss and joy, but there are many other emotions women experience such as anxiety, exhaustion, and frustration. Feeling overwhelmed in general or irritated by unsolicited advice from EVERYONE can also be normal emotions for moms. Typically, these changes in emotions can start around two to three days after delivery but last no longer than two weeks.
Why does this happen? After delivery, there is a sudden withdraw of the increased levels of hormones that were circulating in your body to support the pregnancy. With this withdraw, many women experience changes in emotions. All these things can be a part of what is called the “Baby Blues”. According to the March of Dimes, up to 80% of women can experience the “Baby Blues” after delivery.
If your symptoms are not getting better after two weeks OR your symptoms are getting worse, PLEASE speak with your provider. Sometimes there can be something more, such as Postpartum Depression. More on this in Part 3 of this series.
What to have at home:A support network, be it friends or family, that can lend a helping hand when needed. It is even better if they are also willing to give you a little space when needed but are honest enough to speak up if there is a concern. If there are certain ways you want things done, let them know that in advance BEFORE you and baby come home.
- Breast changes – Whether you breastfeed, bottle feed, or a little bit of both, your breasts will go through changes.
- If you are breastfeeding, you may get discomfort as your milk comes in and when your breasts get engorged. A nice warm shower can help to ease this discomfort. If you are engorged, breastfeeding your baby or pumping your breasts can help.
Nipple discomfort is also something women can face. Things that you can do for nipple discomfort are applying lanolin cream and cool compresses to the nipple. They sell creams and nipple cooling pads at your local store, or they are available online. You can also use a soaked tea bag that you put in the refrigerator. Another helpful tip that is quick and easy is expressing some of the milk after nursing, rubbing the milk into the nipple, and allowing the nipple to air dry. Finally, avoid using soap on the nipple as this can be drying. If it is not getting better after a week, you may want to speak with a lactation consultant to help you with the baby latching on.
What to have at home: Lanolin cream, nipple cooling pads, nursing bra
- If you are bottle feeding, you can still get some breast discomfort. If your mom or grandmother tells you to bind your breasts, DON’T DO IT. Back in the day, that was a recommendation, but times have changed. Instead, experts recommend that you simply wear a good supporting bra. Cool compresses can also be comforting. Heat is not recommended as this stimulates the milk and that defeats the purpose if you don’t want to breastfeed.
What to have at home: Good supporting bra, ice pack
Other normal changes:
- Swelling of the hands and feet – Your body is starting to mobilize and get rid of the fluid it retained during pregnancy. Elevating your feet can help with this. If more support is needed, you can purchase compression stockings at your local pharmacy or online.
- Pain in the vaginal area – Even if you don’t have any tears, you can still get pain in the vaginal area. Ice packs to that area or cold maxi pads can help to relieve some of the discomfort. They do sell ice pack pads as well. Perineal bottles, which are often given to you at the hospital, can help flush water over the perineum – the area between the vagina and rectum – during and after urination, as urinating can be irritating. There are also numbing sprays with benzocaine in them, such as Dermoplast, that are available over-the-counter.
- Hemorrhoids – Having hemorrhoid cream and witch hazel wipes, such as Tucks wipes, is always good to have on hand.
- Hair loss – It is normal to have thicker hair DURING pregnancy, but it is also normal to lose more hair than normal after you give birth. But don’t panic. It all evens out after a few months.
To sum it up, your “Bringing You Home” care package should include:
- Maxi pads
You might also consider these items as well:
- Heating Pad
- Ice packs
- Lanolin cream
- Nipple cooling pads
- Nursing bra
- Good supporting bra
- Compression stockings
- Hemorrhoid cream
- Witch hazel wipes
- Benzocaine spray
These are some of the normal things that you may experience in the postpartum period. Of course, there are other things that you may notice that are completely normal as well. If ever in doubt, reach out to your doctor.
Next time, we will talk about some of the abnormal changes you want to watch out for.
Until then, be well and be sure to show yourself grace and love.
Dr. Kristin Williams
Medical Director of Women’s Health Specialists of North Texas
About the author: Dr. Kristin Williams is a board-certified Ob/Gyn. She graduated from Wayne State University School of Medicine in Detroit, Michigan. After completing one year of training at Tulane University in New Orleans, Louisiana, Dr. Williams moved to Dallas, Texas to complete her residency at Parkland Hospital. She worked in private practice with Women’s Health Specialists of North Texas for 16 years and now works with the office as the office Medical Director.
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